You know, one of my lifetime hobbies has been body reading. You basically know how a person is by how she/he moves around, thats why i say that body is the real talker. You know, is a good and bad ability to have. As they say "Ignorance is bliss." is not good to know that a very good friend is lying to you when they say something, sometimes is good not to know. I want to mention some curious stuff that people should know about other people. I think we should learn to read body language, this would save us a lot of problems.
How about lying? We'll start simple. Lets say you give a good friend of yours a britney spears CD, how to know if she liked it or just said "oh how nice" by pure courtesy? Well an obvious one is, she could say "i love it" and her face simply doesnt fit the expression, maybe she's frowning or has a weird face. Lets say she does smile, everyone has two smiles, fake and true, the fake one involves only your mouth, you just smile period. However, the true one involves your whole face, your eyes will get smaller as if you couldnt see something, your forehead goes down, you get wrinkles next to your eyes cause your cheeks go up. Heh smiling is not that simple. Another thing is, she looks at the present, says "i love it" and THEN smiles, how is true happiness expressed? simple, you smile even before you say something in thanks. Emotions lose normal timing when lying, maybe you smile too soon, have your smile during toooo damn long, and then stop all of a sudden. If one pays attention one gets all these signs loud and clear.
Now for a curious one, this one i recently found and found it really accurate.
This is our test subject guy/girl. Now the rest ill copy paste of the site i found it from:
When asked a question a "normally organized" right-handed person looks (from your viewpoint, looking at them):
Up and to the Left Indicates: Visually Constructed Images (Vc)If you asked someone to "Imagine a purple buffalo", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they "Visually Constructed" a purple buffalo in their mind.
Up and to the Right Indicates: Visually Remembered Images (Vr)If you asked someone to "What color was the first house you lived in?", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they "Visually Remembered" the color of their childhood home.
To the Left Indicates: Auditory Constructed (Ac)If you asked someone to "Try and create the highest the sound of the pitch possible in your head", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they "Auditorily Constructed" this this sound that they have never heard of.
To the Right Indicates: Auditory Remembered (Ar)If you asked someone to "Remember what their mother's voice sounds like ", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they "Auditorily Remembered " this sound.
Down and to the Left Indicates: Feeling / Kinesthetic (F)If you asked someone to "Can you remember the smell of a campfire? ", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they used recalled a smell, feeling, or taste.
Down and To the Right Indicates: Internal Dialog (Ai)This is the direction of someone eyes as they "talk to themselves".
The Gist of it...
How this information is used to detect lies:
Example: Let's say your child ask's you for a cookie, and you ask them "well, what did your mother say?" As they reply "Mom said... yes." they look to the left. This would indicate a made up answer as their eyes are showing a "constructed image or sound. Looking to the right would indicated a "remembered" voice or image, and thus would be telling the truth.
Final Notes:
*** Looking straight ahead or with eyes that are defocused/unmoving is also considered a sign of visual accessing.
*** A typical left-handed person would have the opposite meanings for their eye-directions.
http://www.blifaloo.com/info/lies_eyes.php
Remember its from your point of view and that it depends on if the person is right handed or left handed.
Another way to find out if someone is lying is very suddenly changing the subject, if the person was lying they will relax a lot and wont complain after the subject change. However, if telling the truth the person will get confused about the sudden subject change and quickly demand to go back and finish. They elaborate normal sentences: "i didnt do it" is true while " i DID NOT do it" could be a lie. Theres a lot more signs of lying, lying is almost pretty obvious is the person is an unexperienced or amateurish liar. (heh i just basically told you not to trust me)
All these things are experimental, theres no quick and fail-proof way of knowing if someone is lying so, remember that these things are not definite, its just an attempt to analyze body language.
How about another kind of analysis? How about flirting? Who hasnt gone out for a treat with a recently met a nice pretty girl and was so focused about not making a fool out of oneself so that you make all the obvious flirting signs? Also to focused to see if she was flirting back.
In general we have certain things in common both genders, boys and girls. The common one is eye contact, if you are talking to a normal friend, you just look at their eyes, or a blank spot in their face. However if flirting, you tend to wander around the persons face and body. Some people think its rude, but its just the way our minds work, for both boys and girls. Example: looking at someones mouth could mean like kissing. Another is mirroring. What is that you may ask? Simple, like a mirror you show what he is showing you. Not always as doing the same things at the same time, but maybe as having the same pose, the same hand on the table, the same mood. If someone tells you they have gone through the same things as you have, you develop a certain fondness of that person. I must mention, i have suffered this accidentally, and when you dont actually mean it, its kinda creepy and funny hehe. We also tend to use our bodies almost like arrows to point to the person, is that need to face the person more clearly. Another more complicated thing is that our pupils increase in size and we blink more often. Due to the mirroring it could be that both persons are blinking at the same rythm without knowing it. Important is that most of these things are involuntary, nobody plans them, its just a little of instinct to show some interest.
So, how about us guys? What do we do? We involuntarily try to appear more handsome haha we flex abs, straighten our backs, suck our guts, nothing unthinkable hehe. We also tend to keep our hands in the waist line, be it belt buckle or our pockets. (ps: im saying WE because im a guy too, not because im aware of all these things, i dont notice them either hehe im too focused on the girl i guess) We also groom ourselves in front of the girl so that she notices that we want to look good for her and to show our interest. We also tend to stretch our arms to appear stronger or bigger.
Girls. Who understands em? Well we can try this for starters. Girl play with their hair. Period. Really obvious i know, and most girls say they dont, but in reality they actually do, be it as drastic as a schoolgirl with bubble gum rolling it around a finger or as unnoticeable as a simple passing of the hand through it. Girl signals are more simple, but stronger, and seen sexy by us. They tend to show their neck directly to us, also the skin of their wrists. Women usually play more with men, like involuntarily playing with us, like passing their hand by their necks or swinging their hair from one side to another followed by a look that could melt Alaska.
These are just comments, written after reading articles on the net. But i want to clear up one thing, this isnt something you can learn. While flirting things stop being logical or mechanical, things just happen, so try not to study these things, its dumb. Just plain and simply:
Go with the flow.
